How to Become an Au Pair in United States

    Becoming an au pair in United States lets you live with a local host family, improve your language skills and experience everyday life abroad. This guide covers eligibility, how the J-1 Exchange Visitor Program (Au Pair category) works, what the role involves day to day, and how to find a trustworthy host family on AuPairsy — plus practical tips for settling in.

    Programme / route

    J-1 Exchange Visitor Program (Au Pair category)

    Pocket money

    USD 195.75 per week (federal minimum)

    Childcare hours

    Up to 45 hrs/week

    Typical stay

    12 (extendable by 6, 9 or 12)

    Au pair age

    18–26 years

    Language

    Conversational English

    United States: J-1 au pair participation requires a Department of State-designated sponsor. AuPairsy is not a J-1 sponsor and cannot sponsor visas. Learn more

    Am I eligible to be an au pair in United States?

    Au pairs in United States are generally aged 18–26. Beyond age, host families look for real childcare experience, reliability and genuine enthusiasm for cultural exchange. Read the key requirements below carefully, because they determine whether you need a visa and which documents to prepare.

    What will I actually do as an au pair in United States?

    Your days as an au pair in United States revolve around the children: school drop-offs and pick-ups, preparing their meals, playing and helping with homework, and keeping their spaces tidy — typically up to 45 hours per week. An au pair is not a housekeeper, so heavy cleaning and demanding newborn care normally sit outside the role. Make sure your duties, hours and any babysitting are written down before you arrive: it protects both you and the family and sets the placement up to succeed.

    How to apply and arrange your visa

    Create a free au pair profile, then search and message host families whose location, children and expectations match what you are looking for. When a family invites you, you arrange the J-1 Exchange Visitor Program (Au Pair category) together. Keep copies of your signed agreement and any official documents, and never pay large upfront fees to a family or an unverified agency.

    Pocket money, working hours and time off

    As an au pair in United States you can usually expect USD 195.75 per week (federal minimum), with childcare of up to 45 hours per week. You should also have free time every week and at least one full day off — many au pairs use it for a language course, to travel locally or to meet other au pairs.

    Daily life and making the most of your stay

    Living with a host family is the fastest way to improve your language and build friendships that last for years. Agree house rules early, speak up if something is unclear, and treat the placement as a true cultural exchange rather than just a job. Staying connected with other au pairs nearby makes settling in much easier.

    Tips for a happy stay in United States

    Say yes to family life — shared meals, day trips and local traditions are where the real cultural exchange happens, and where your language skills improve fastest. Enrol in a language course early, connect with other au pairs nearby so you have a social circle of your own, and raise anything that is bothering you with your host family calmly and early rather than letting it build up. A little openness and effort on both sides is what turns a year in United States into a genuinely life-changing experience.

    Key requirements in United States

    • Placement must go through a U.S. Department of State–designated sponsor agency
    • Au pair completes at least 32 hours of child development / academic coursework
    • Maximum 10 hours of childcare per day and 45 hours per week
    • Host family pays the weekly stipend plus up to USD 500 toward education
    • Standard program is 12 months on a J-1 visa, with a possible extension

    Official United States resources

    Rules change — always confirm the latest details on these official sources before you commit.

    Last checked against official sources: 2026-05-27.

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